“Date nights provide opportunities for communication, novelty, eros, strengthening commitment, and de-stressing.” - Gerald Zingraf


“When you are deliberate about dating your spouse it says to him or her, “I still choose you.” - Heaven Made

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Families With Young Children

Fake Out/Take Out – Make dinner for your kids, sit down and talk with them while they eat – they likely won’t even notice you aren’t eating (or eat dinner like normal and do this for desert). Then after the kids go to bed, one of you goes and gets take out and brings it home. You have a romantic dinner for two, while the kids sleep – no babysitter needed!


Be a kid again – after the kids go to bed, get out some of your favorite games (board games, video games, whatever you like) and play with your spouse! See also dates at home section.

Dates at Home

  • After the kids go to bed, get out the board games and have a game night just the two of you.
  • Have a movie night at home – popcorn and your favorite old movie.
  • Make Dinner together
  • Have an indoor picnic
  • Take a bubble bath together
  • Take a Saturday and binge watch a TV show you both want to see on Netflix – make sure to have your favorite snacks!
  • Play your favorite card game or board game
  • Hunt a Killer (interactive murder mystery subscription game)

Conversation Starters

  • Share some memories of your wedding day? What emotions were you feeling?
    – What part of the ceremony stands out in your mind?
  • Describe your idea of a perfect vacation just for the two of you.
    – Where would you go and what would you do together?
  • How do you imagine celebrating your 25th wedding anniversary? What about your 50th?
  • What are three things your spouse does that make you feel special and loved?
  • Who was your best friend when you were growing up? What made them so special to you?
  • Do you think you and your spouse go out on enough dates together?
  • How can you make more time for each other?
  • Describe one of your favorite memories of them spent together.
  • How do you imagine your married life together in 10 years?
  • How would you describe your spiritual life right now?
  • Name three character traits you admire most about your spouse.
  • At what times are you the most attracted to your spouse?
  • What is your greatest source of stress right now?
  • How can your spouse support and encourage you?
  • Describe a special memory of time spent with your mom and dad as a child.
  • Whose marriage do you most admire?
    – What elements of their relationship would you like to see in yours?
  • If you were going to serve on a mission trip together, where would you like to go?
  • What type of service appeals to you the most?
  • What was the worst outfit your mother ever made you wear?
  • What is the best move you have ever seen? The worst? What was the first movie you remember watching as a child?
  • Who is the best boss you ever had? What made them so great to work for?
  • Describe your dream house and where it would be?
  • Outside of your own family, what adult had the most influence in your life as a teenager?
  • If you could spend three days alone at home, unplugged from the phone, TV and computer, how would you spend your time?
  • What are some ways you could reach out and connect with your neighbors?
  • Do you think your schedules are too busy? In what ways could you simplify and slow down?
  • What first attracted you to your spouse? When did you know that they were “the one”?
  • If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
  • Name three things that make a marriage successful. Are those things part of your relationship?
  • What is a new hobby or activity that you could do together? What would it take to get started?
  • How can I support you in the your spiritual life?
  • What are ways that you can develop your faith as a couple?
  • If you could only take five things with you to a deserted island, what would they be?
  • If you could open your own restaurant what would it be like?
  • Name your fears: what are you most afraid to lose? What are you most afraid to do? And where would you be the most afraid to go?
  • What is your idea of a fulfilling love life?
  • Describe a time as a child you felt really special and important.
  • What is the best Christmas or birthday gift you ever received? That you have ever given?
  • If you could meet anyone from history, who would it be and what questions would you ask them?
  • In what ways are you and your spouse closer now than when you were newlyweds?
  • If you could pursue any career in the world, what would it be? What would it take to get started?
  • What book or movie describes your life together?
  • What actor or actress would play “you” in a movie about your life?
  • What do you look forward to the most when you imagine your life with your spouse in 25 years?
  • What is your favorite story or character in the Bible? Why?
  • What are the top threes hopes and dreams form your kids?
  • Is untying taking a higher priority than your marriage right now? What can you do about that?
  • Describe one of your most embarrassing moments from childhood and as an adult.
  • If you could go back and make a certain decision differently, what would it be?

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